Each month, we feature a talented member of our team to learn more about them, their work, and how they approach therapy working with men.
Meet the Therapist: Michael Walecki, RP Qualifying
What's on your therapist bookshelf at the moment?
Though I am shuffling through a few different books this month, the one that stick out the most is The Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer. I've found that the source of many people's mental health issues stem from their resistance to accepting reality, and I’m re-reading The Surrender Experiment for the third time because it really demonstrates how to practice acceptance in one's life in such a unique way. Not only does this book tell you how to find more acceptance, but it is an autobiography of someone who does it, and lives a remarkable life because of it. Highly recommend giving it a read!
What inspired you to become a therapist, and how do your personal experiences shape your approach to counseling?
My inspiration to become a therapist stems from a lifelong passion for connecting with people and helping them navigate their challenges. I've always enjoyed meeting new people, learning about their lives, and offering support with their problems. This natural inclination led me to volunteer work, where I spent countless hours assisting individuals from diverse backgrounds, further deepening my commitment to making a positive difference in others' lives.
However, it was my personal journey that truly cemented my desire to become a therapist. Facing my own struggles, I sought the help of a therapist, and the experience was transformative. The positive impact of a caring, non-judgmental therapist on my life was profound, offering me the tools and understanding to overcome my issues. This firsthand experience gave me a deep appreciation for the therapeutic process and the power of empathy and active listening. It also shaped my approach to counseling, as I strive to create a safe, supportive environment for my clients, mirroring the compassion and acceptance I received.
My personal experiences allow me to connect with clients on a deeper level, fostering trust and openness. I aim to guide them through their difficulties with the same dedication and care that helped me, reinforcing my belief in the potential for growth and healing in every individual.
Can you share a bit about your therapeutic philosophy and the theoretical approaches you integrate into your practice?
My therapeutic philosophy centers on meeting every client where they are and adjusting my approach to fit their unique needs. Recognizing that each individual brings their own set of challenges and strengths, I tailor my methods to best support their journey. For clients who benefit from skill-building and behavioral change, I integrate Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) to help them develop practical strategies for managing their thoughts and behaviors. Mindfulness practices are also incorporated to enhance self-awareness and emotional regulation.
For those who need to process and understand emotional experiences, I utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and a person-centered approach. This involves creating a safe, empathetic space where clients can explore their feelings and gain insight into their emotional world. My goal is to help them navigate their emotions and develop healthier relational patterns.
Regardless of the specific techniques employed, my primary aim is to ensure that each person feels heard and understood. I focus on their positive ability to cope with life’s challenges and emphasize their inherent strengths. By fostering an environment of acceptance and support, I empower clients to harness their resilience and pursue personal growth. Ultimately, my therapeutic approach is flexible and client-centered, drawing on a range of theoretical frameworks to provide comprehensive care tailored to the individual’s needs.
What specific populations or issues do you specialize in, and what unique insights or techniques do you bring to those areas?
I specialize in working with men aged 18-50, addressing a range of issues including substance use, anger, anxiety, and depression. My primary focus is on helping individuals struggling with substance use issues. I bring a comprehensive understanding of addiction's complexities and use evidence-based techniques like Motivational Interviewing and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to support clients in their recovery journey. These approaches help clients recognize the triggers and underlying causes of their substance use, develop healthier coping mechanisms, and work towards sustainable sobriety.
In addition to substance use, I work extensively with men experiencing anger, anxiety, and depression. I integrate therapeutic modalities such as Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) to help clients manage intense emotions and reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression. These techniques foster emotional regulation, self-awareness, and mindfulness, enabling clients to navigate their emotional landscapes more effectively.
I also enjoy working with men who feel stuck in their current life situations and are seeking guidance from an unbiased third party. Many men face societal pressures and internalized expectations that can lead to feelings of stagnation or inadequacy. Through a person-centered approach, I provide a supportive environment where clients can explore their goals, values, and obstacles. I use solution-focused techniques to help them identify actionable steps and leverage their strengths to create meaningful change.
In your experience, what are some common misconceptions about therapy, and how do you work to address and overcome them in your practice?
Common misconceptions about therapy include the belief that it is only for people with severe mental health issues, that seeking help is a sign of weakness, and that therapy provides quick fixes. In my practice, I address these misconceptions by normalizing the therapeutic process and emphasizing that therapy is beneficial for anyone seeking personal growth, improved coping strategies, or emotional support. I educate clients on the collaborative nature of therapy, highlighting that it is a space for self-exploration and skill-building rather than a sign of failure. I also set realistic expectations, explaining that meaningful change often takes time and effort. By fostering an open, non-judgmental environment, I encourage clients to view therapy as a proactive step towards a healthier, more fulfilling life. Through transparency, empathy, and education, I work to demystify therapy and make it a positive, empowering experience for all.
What’s your favourite self-care activity?
There are many self-care activities that I enjoy, but if I had to synthesize it into one, it would be engaging in a hard physical activity with a group of people. Whether it's a challenging workout at the gym, a long hike, or even a polar plunge in the winter, the combination of physical exertion and camaraderie is incredibly fulfilling. These activities push my physical limits and foster a strong sense of connection and support among the group. Sharing these experiences with others creates a powerful bond, as we encourage and motivate each other to overcome the challenges we face. It also allows us to have deep and meaningful conversations, enriching our relationships and providing emotional support. This blend of strenuous activity and social interaction not only enhances my physical health but also boosts my mental and emotional well-being, making it my favorite way to practice self-care.
What do you find most rewarding about being a therapist?
The most rewarding aspect of being a therapist is witnessing the profound transformations in my clients. Seeing people achieve greater emotional freedom, develop deeper and more meaningful relationships, and create objective changes in their lives is incredibly fulfilling. It's profoundly moving to observe these shifts during our work together, as clients navigate their journeys towards healing and growth. The process of helping someone uncover their potential and overcome obstacles feels like watching an underdog story unfold in real life. It's inspiring to see individuals tap into their resilience and make lasting, positive changes. Each breakthrough, no matter how small, reaffirms the importance of the therapeutic process and the power of human connection. This ability to facilitate and witness such significant personal growth is what makes being a therapist truly rewarding.
What would you say to someone who has never been in therapy before and may be considering taking that first step and reaching out?
It's completely normal to feel uncertain or nervous about starting therapy, but remember that it's a courageous and positive step towards your well-being. You don't have to settle for the first therapist you meet; it's important to find someone you connect with and feel comfortable around. Trust your gut when choosing a therapist, as the right fit can make a significant difference in your experience. Give it a shot, and be open to the process. Taking the step towards therapy can lead to profound personal growth and a better understanding of yourself, so trust in your decision and know that seeking help is a strength.